A Word from our Student Rabbi
Madeline Budman shares her thoughts on Torah, Jewish life, and her experience as a seminary student serving the B’nai Israel community.
January 25, 2021
It’s difficult for the average American Jew to understand Tu B’shvat. Other holidays seem to make sense temporally: Sukkot comes as the autumn harvest wraps up, Pesach is on the cusp of spring, and Shavuot coincides with the wheat harvest. But the birthday of the trees, in the dead of winter? It’s been snowing or sleeting for weeks in Cincinnati, and I’ve seen pictures of the frozen ground in Grand Forks. There is no hint of life in the trees, and the grass is dead and brittle. The first time I was in Israel for Tu B’shvat, I was blown away. Late January and early February in the Middle East is the equivalent of April and May in the midwest: there are still blustery and rainy days, but the flowers are blooming, sprouts shoot up out of the earth, and the trees are full of life once again. While the beauty of spring is on full display in the land of Israel, here in the U.S. we are celebrating the potential of rebirth and regrowth. It hasn’t arrived yet, but we know that, just like every year, it will come soon for us.
Our Shabbat celebration this week will include Tu B’shvat and environmental themes, but thanks to our Torah portion Beshalach, it is also Shabbat Shira! This week, we read the Song of the Sea that the Israelites sang after they crossed the Sea of Reeds out of Egypt and into the freedom of the desert. It is customary to have lots of joyous singing on this Shabbat, and ours will be no different, with lots of familiar and new tunes.
After our Shabbat service, we’ll continue the celebration with a special Tu B’shvat oneg. We’ll say the blessings over the traditional kinds of Tu B’shvat fruits and taste them together. You are welcome to participate whether you have the fruits or not, but if you’d like to bring your own nosh, make sure you have:
- Fruit with a shell such as pomegranates, walnuts, bananas, pistachios, or oranges
- Fruits with a pit such as dates, olives, avocados, peaches, or apricots
- Fruits that are entirely edible such as grapes without seeds, figs, or berries
You can also bring with you white wine and red wine, but we probably won’t get to all four glasses during our oneg together!
We’ll continue our Tu B’shvat weekend with “coffee half-hour” on Saturday morning at 10:30 am, followed by Adult Education at 11 am. This week, we will be learning about Jewish environmentalism. We’ll start by looking at Biblical and ancient sources for Jewish stewardship of land, and we’ll learn about and discuss what it means to protect the environment as a Jew in 2021.
I’m looking forward to singing, dancing, and noshing with you all on Friday, January 29th at 7:30 pm. If you want to light the Shabbat candles, please have your candlesticks with you on Zoom, so that we can all light and bless together at the start of our service!
December 7, 2020
The news keeps reminding us that due to the progression of the pandemic, we have a long, dark winter ahead. But human beings are resilient, and for as long as we have walked on this earth, we have fought against the cold and the dark of this season. I’m reminded of a midrash about Adam, the first human. When Adam approached the world’s first winter solstice, he began to mourn and despair. He cried out, “Maybe it’s my fault! Because I sinned, the world is getting darker and darker until it returns to primordial chaos.” Out of fear, he spent eight days fasting and praying. The winter solstice came and went, and the days began to grow longer again. Out of gratitude, Adam established a festival of light that he celebrated for eight days (Talmud Bavli Avodah Zarah 8a). This ancient precursor to Hanukkah reminds us that across all cultures and civilizations, humans have sought to bring light to the darkest days of the year.
This Shabbat, which is also the second night of Hanukkah, let us increase light against the darkness. We will celebrate not only the joy of Shabbat that comes every week, but also the miracle of Hanukkah. We are in the depths of the darkness right now, but over the eight days of Hanukkah, we will increase light in our homes and in our community. Hanukkah ends on December 18, just three days before the winter solstice, and just three days before light begins to increase again. We are almost out of the dark. We will chase away the darkness this Friday night through joyous song, the glow of the Hanukkah candles, and, if we’re lucky, some gelt and latkes as well.
In the bright sunshine, we will have as usual our social “coffee half-hour” on Saturday morning at 10:30 am, followed by Adult Education at 11 am. This week, we will be learning about Jewish feminism through the lens of some ancient heroes. We’ll start by learning the story of Judith, a powerful woman connected to the Hanukkah story, and we’ll move on to what modern feminist theologians have to say about women in the Bible.
I’m looking forward to increasing light with you on Friday, December 11th at 7:30 pm. If you want to light the Shabbat and Hanukkah candles, please have your candlesticks and your menorah with you on Zoom, so that we can all light and bless together at the start of our service!
November 9, 2020
What a week it has been! No matter what you were hoping for as the outcome in this election, this week has been one of anxiety and anticipation. My wish for the week is that during this Shabbat ahead, we are able to cultivate some peace and stillness once again.
The month of Cheshvan, which is already almost over, has always meant peace and stillness for me. It is the only month of the Jewish year that is empty of holidays. For that reason, there is a custom of calling the month Mar-cheshvan, or “bitter Cheshvan.” Yet, I see nothing bitter about our only month without holidays. I see Cheshvan as a gift, a time to settle into ourselves. We have been working hard all throughout Elul and Tishrei, preparing for the High Holy Days, confronting ourselves and our wrongdoings, cooking up a flurry of holiday meals, repenting and dancing and singing, and then comes Cheshvan. We have a chance to relax as autumn settles in and winter creeps ever closer. During Cheshvan, we can pause, breathe, and just be.
I am so looking forward to all of us being together again to welcome in Shabbat this week. Abraham Joshua Heschel called Shabbat a “palace in time,” and I hope that together we can build ourselves a beautiful, communal respite from all that surrounds us.
After our Shabbat worship together on Friday night, we will have our social “coffee half-hour” on Saturday morning at 10:30 am, followed by Adult Education at 11 am. This week, we will be talking about our relationship to Israel from the diaspora. We’ll look at texts that yearn towards Israel, discuss what it means to be a Jew in America versus a Jew in Israel, and think about what it means to feel connected to land and to people.
I can’t wait to see you all on Friday, November 13th at 7:30 pm. If you want to light Shabbat candles, please have your candlesticks with you on Zoom, so that we can all light and bless together at the start of our service!
October 5, 2020
Chag Sukkot Sameach! The festival of Sukkot, which comes on the heels of powerful and introspective Yom Kippur, is also known as “Z’man Simchateinu” — the time of our joy. We transition from teshuva, repentance, to celebration as we dwell in our Sukkot and give thanks for the abundant fall harvest around us. Whether or not you have the opportunity to sit in a Sukkah and shake a lulav and etrog this year, I hope you take some time to breathe in the fresh fall air, notice the turning of the seasons, and take some time for joy this week.
Our time of joy will continue this Friday with Simchat Torah! We have read one parsha each week from the Torah all year, and on Simchat Torah we read the very end of the Torah and immediately start again at the beginning. The ancient sage Rabbi Ben Bag Bag said, “Turn the Torah, and then turn it again, for everything is contained within it” (Pirkei Avot 5:22). We celebrate so many cycles in this season: the end of the year, and the beginning of new opportunities to do good; the end of summer, and the beginning of the fall harvest; the end of the Torah, and then, right away, the beginning of it again. Everything is contained in the turning of our year, and so much wisdom is found in our ancient Torah
To celebrate this joyous holiday with a musical Shabbat and Torah service, I am delighted to share that we will have a guest leader! My dear friend Lara Tessler is also a second year rabbinic student at HUC-JIR, though she is studying on the New York campus. Lara has been a songleader in the Reform movement for many years, and I had the pleasure of working with her at URJ Camp Coleman and leading t’filah with her during our Year in Israel. I’m so excited for you all to meet Lara, and for Lara to meet the B’nai Israel community!
fter our Shabbat service which is sure to be a treat, we will have our social “coffee half-hour” on Saturday morning at 10:30 am, followed by Adult Education at 11 am. As discussed during our Adult Education session in August, this week we will be discussing the role of mitzvot in Reform Judaism. We’ll talk about halakha (Jewish law), how Reform Jewish scholars and leaders view these topics, and what being “commanded” means for each of us in our own Jewish lives.
I look forward to celebrating with you on Friday, October 9th at 7:30 pm. If you want to light Shabbat candles, please have your candlesticks with you on Zoom, so that we can all light and bless together at the start of our service!
Moadim l’simcha, (may this time be full of joy,)
September 8, 2020
There’s a reason that the season we are about to enter is called the High Holy Days. This season is the spiritual height of the Jewish calendar, rising from the lowest point of our year, the mournful day of Tisha B’av, reaching a crescendo with Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, and then sliding gently into autumn with Sukkot and Simchat Torah. The Days of Awe are the days that we might find ourselves closest to God.
And yet, this year, the High Holy Days will feel different. We won’t be in the synagogue surrounded by stained glass windows, kissing the Torah as it is paraded around the sanctuary, and listening to each other sing. Our circumstances mean that we have to put in some extra work to elevate our worship this year. I have been thinking about ways that we might still make these High Holy Days special, and the URJ has put out some resources as well. Here are some suggestions:
- Position yourself in a different place in your house to attend Zoom services. Maybe sit somewhere different from where you work, in a more formal setting like the living room or the dining room table. If you can, try attending the services on your TV so that you’re not hunched over a computer, or at least turn on “Do Not Disturb” so you don’t receive other notifications while you’re praying.
- Dress up like you’ll be attending synagogue. Put on shoes, wear a tallit or a kippah if you have one, or wear anything that makes you feel like you’re in a spiritual space.
- Consider making a festive meal for Rosh Hashanah, and a break fast meal in lieu of the one we would share together at the end of Yom Kippur. I’ll be making a stuffed apple honey challah that I make every year for Rosh Hashanah, and a cardamom apple noodle kugel for Yom Kippur break fast by Grand Forks’ own Molly Yeh. Even though we can’t physically eat together, we can feel like we are together by enjoying the same holiday food.
- This is extremely important — sing along, even if you are muted and no one can hear you! Prayer is not a performance, even on Zoom.
- For more ideas on how to create a holy space within your home, including suggestions for setting your table with ritual objects and blessings you can say to set an intention, check out Reform Judaism’s article “How to Turn Your Home into a Sanctuary for the High Holidays.”
Additionally, I want to address some logistical “tachlis” things that are specific to services this year.
- First and foremost, you are not captive! Even though our services will be shorter this year, it is easy to become Zoom fatigued. Stand up and step away if you need to.
- A flipbook for our High Holy Day machzor, Gates of Repentance, can be found here. Please note some of its quirks: it is “Hebrew-opening,” so you must click on the left arrow to move forward in the book. You can also type in the page number you want to go to in the bottom toolbar and hit “enter.” If possible, it is best to use the flipbook on a device other than the one you are using for Zoom, so that you don’t have to toggle back and forth between windows. If the flipbook is too cumbersome, a discounted Kindle version is available here. However, nothing replaces the feeling of praying with a physical book in your hands. I highly recommend getting in touch with Bert Garwood or another member of the board to arrange the socially-distant pick up or delivery of one of the synagogue’s copies of Gates of Repentance.
- So that you won’t be only hearing my voice for all of the High Holy Days, there are several English readings in each service that are designated for congregants. Jeffrey Powell will be private chatting individuals and families at the beginning of each Zoom service to hand out virtual honors. Everyone will have the chance to actively participate in our services.
I appreciate all the care and effort that has already been put forth to make these High Holy Days special for the B’nai Israel community, especially by the High Holy Day Committee, our shofar blower, and our Kol Nidre musicians and soloists. I am looking forward to spending these awe-filled days with you very soon.
L’shanah tovah u’metukah, (to a sweet and good new year,)
August 13, 2020
Hi, everyone! My name is Madeline Budman, and I am so excited to be serving as B’nai Israel’s student rabbi this year. I recently moved to Cincinnati with my fiancé (who is also studying to become a rabbi!) to study at Hebrew Union College – Jewish Institute of Religion. I’m looking forward to getting to know your community and each of you this year.
At least for the time being, I won’t be able to physically be with you in Grand Forks. Due to pandemic-related travel restrictions through HUC-JIR, I’ll be conducting virtual “visits” over Zoom. Every time we get together, we will welcome Shabbat through a brief service on Friday night, complete with chanting the Torah and followed by kiddush and motzi; chat and build community during our “coffee half-hour” on Saturday mornings; and learn together during adult education sessions after that. I am also looking forward to Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, which will probably be unlike any other High Holy Days we’ve ever celebrated.
This pandemic is full of bitterness, but out of all of the difficulties there come new opportunities. While I would much rather be with all of you in person (and I certainly hope I get to this year!), being entirely virtual allows us to experiment and try out ideas that we never thought possible before. From multimedia worship to Jewish cooking classes, there is so much that I want to explore together. I am especially excited about Adult Education this year, in which I want to explore ways to enrich our Jewish lives at home during this era of social distancing and beyond. I encourage you to come to our first Adult Education session on Saturday, August 22nd at 11:00 am, where we will learn about the history of Judaism during pandemics of centuries past, talk about COVID-19-specific Jewish rituals, and brainstorm what types of Jewish practice, food, and culture we want to learn about together this year.
Because I won’t get to schmooze with everyone in person, I would love to set up a time to chat! Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org so that we can have a Zoom call or talk on the phone and get to know each other.
I look forward to meeting you on Friday, August 21st at 7:30 pm. If you want to light Shabbat candles, please have your candlesticks with you on Zoom, so that we can all light and bless together at the start of our service!
Messages from previous students
April 28, 2020
The first mile is a lie.
A few months ago, a community member shared these words with me. When running a marathon, they said, the key is to pace yourself. If the first mile is too fast and easy, you will probably suffer later. Or, if you start off a bit rocky and slow, you are likely to run the remainder of the race with more ease. The first mile is a lie. This first mile is like the first year of a new school, the first month of a new job, or the first week of living in a COVID-19 world. If this story is a book, we cannot judge it by its cover, or even the first chapter.
During this week of counting the omer (the seven weeks between Pesach and Shavuot), we meditate on the value of netzach, perseverance. Netzach does not always come easily, but we need it now. Living in a COVID-19 world is more like running a marathon than a sprint. The question is, how do we maintain our mental and physical health, sustain our communities, and uphold our values for the long haul?
This week, we read a double Torah portion — Achrei Mot-Kedoshim. In Kedoshim, we read: kedoshim tihiyu, “You shall be holy” (Lev. 19:2). The form of the verb to be used here, “tihiyu” implies both command — be holy — and an action that will be performed in the future — you will be holy. As Elyse Goldstein interprets, this is “both a command for now and [a] promise for the future: we can and we will find ways to be holy” (The Torah: A Women’s Commentary 719). We recommit to holiness everyday: both an urgent and an eternal directive.
I pray that we find the strength to persevere and pull together, to have the courage to choose holiness both today and tomorrow, even during a pandemic.
April 5, 2020
Happy (almost) Passover
In just a few days, people around the world will gather with family and friends, few in person but many over Zoom, for Pesach Seders. Seder, what we call the festive holiday ritual, means order. With all of the chaos in our world, still incomprehensible for many of us, endless days that seem to bleed into each other, and hour after hour on video conferences, many of us need an extra dose of order in our lives.
As you get ready to celebrate this holiday of liberation, I hope you find joy and solace in creating seder in your homes and your hearts. No matter how you choose to observe this holiday–from sanitizing every inch of your house of leavened bread to eating a piece of matzah on day one–, now is a great time to do some spring cleaning and bring order to life in ways that are meaningful to us.
Since the community seder was canceled, many community members have made alternative seder plans. If you do not have plans to host or join an intimate or virtual seder, but want to, please reach out to the student rabbi, Shirah Kraus, and we can help you find something that works for you (email@example.com).
Instead of hosting a seder, we will be hosting prayer, study, and shmoozing events for Shabbat Saturday during Passover, April 11. Then, the next Friday, April 17, we’ll gather via Zoom for music prayer, and Shabbat reflections. More information is being sent to newsletter subscribers.
Wishing you health, order, and peace,
February 4, 2020
Food for Thought…
There is a story about an older woman who was planting trees. A younger man approached her and asked, “Why are you planting these trees? Surely you will not live long enough to enjoy their fruits!” The woman answered, “That is true. But look around at all of the trees that surround us. Because others planted them for me, I too feel responsible to do the same for the next generations.”
This is one of my favorite stories: it reminds us that we have a responsibility to provide for the future, not just for ourselves. It reflects the message on a bumper sticker that my brother used to have on his car: “A politician thinks of the next election. A leader thinks of the next generation.” We may be weary of politics and efforts by some simply to promote themselves, but if we look closely, we can see that we are surrounded by leaders as well.
We see members of our synagogue community working tirelessly to drain the basement, buy supplies, or bake a challah for oneg. We recognize parents, grandparents, and teachers who impart their stories and teachings unto us. We pay attention to young people and others around the world standing up for a better future.
Just two weeks ago, my eight-grade history teacher, Elizabeth Ormsby, died of cancer at the age of 49. Mrs. Ormsby was the kind of person who thought of the next generation. She empowered us with our own copies of the Constitution, which she lovingly (and a bit eccentrically) referred to as “swords of justice.” A big part of what made her so special was how she made others feel special, too.
The best leaders help us to see that we are leaders, too, in our own way. We each have the power to plant trees and inspire others.
Consider: who planted “trees” for you? What are the “trees” that you aspire to plant for the next generation?
This is no ordinary Shabbat! We have a special holiday and special guests joining us. Coming up on the 10th of February is the birthday of the trees, Tu B’shvat. We will be commemorating this day together with an accessible and hands-on Tu B’shvat seder instead of Friday night services. Come ready to eat some fruits, get your hands a little messy and celebrate our natural world!
We will be joined by two special guests–my father, Rabbi Matthew Kraus, and my 11-year-old sister, Eden. On Saturday, Rabbi Kraus will lead a special Tu B’shvat text study wherein we will dive into what the Torah has to say about trees AND life at the same time. This will be followed by a continuation of our adult education on rituals. If you missed our last session, you can easily join in! We are taking a broader view of rituals to consider the following questions: What are rituals? What purpose do they serve? We will also have some time to brainstorm and innovate our own rituals.
7:30 pm, Friday February 7: Tu B’Shvat Dessert Seder
10:00 am, Saturday February 8: The Torah of Trees text study with Rabbi Matthew Kraus
11:00 am, Saturday February 8: Adult Education on Ritual
A Taste of Torah…
Since we are celebrating Tu B’shvat in place of our usual Torah engagement, I just wanted to note that this weekend is also Shabbat Shirah (Shabbat of Song), the Shabbat wherein the Israelites leave Egypt and recite the Song of the Sea, shirat hayam. This poem is written in a unique way, to look like the waves of the sea which the Israelites crossed to freedom. A copy of what it looks like in the Torah is shown here. To learn more about this week’s chapter of Torah, go here.
I look forward to seeing you this weekend. And as always, please feel free to reach out with any questions at firstname.lastname@example.org.
December 4, 2019
אָכֵן֙ יֵ֣שׁ יְהוָ֔ה בַּמָּק֖וֹם הַזֶּ֑ה וְאָנֹכִ֖י לֹ֥א יָדָֽעְתִּי׃
Achen, yesh Adonai bamakom hazeh v’anochi lo yadati
Behold, God is in this place and I did not know it (Genesis 28:16).
Over the Thanksgiving break, I found myself in a sing-along bar in New York City, encountering lyrics from Little Shop of Horrors. This is a musical previously unfamiliar to me is about a “terrifying enemy,” a man-eating plant that appeared “In the seemingly most innocent and unlikely of places” (“Prologue/Little Shop of Horrors”). But just as evil can come from surprising places, great good can emerge as well.
I have a friend whose positivity and ability to be present never cease to amaze me. When I asked Ben where this endless optimism came from, he told me that he holds onto these words which Jacob uttered in this week’s Torah portion, Vayetze: “Achen, yesh Adonai bamakom hazeh v’anochi lo yadati.” Behold, God is in this place and I did not know it (Genesis 28:16).
Jacob has just fled home after stealing his brother’s birthright. He stops for the night and dreams of angels ascending and descending a ladder to heaven. God speaks to him and when he awakens, these are the words that Jacob proclaims. For my friend, Ben, living by these words means treating each moment as an opportunity for holiness, learning, and meaning.
What does it mean to us for God to “be in this place?” How can we be alert to danger, but also to holiness, to God’s presence? Join us this weekend to contemplate and discuss these questions as we pray and learn together.
Shabbat Evening Services: Friday, December 6 at 7:30 pm
Join us in prayer and music (some with guitar), including a special song for this week’s Torah portion. The student rabbi will deliver a sermon on the Torah portion as well.
If you have not joined us for Torah Study or Adult Education, consider trying it out. Topics are chosen based on students’ interests and sessions are conducted with intention and creativity. All types of learners are welcome.
Torah Study: Saturday, December 7 at 10:00 am
This week, we will delve deeper into the text of Parashat Vayeitze, the Torah portion. We will have some time to discuss the portion in light of our own dreams and the presence of the divine in our lives.
Adult Education: Saturday, December 8 at 11:00 am
Adult Education this year is “Anything But Text,” i.e. a survey of different Jewish topics. Using various case studies, we have the opportunity to learn each month about something in the Jewish world–and in the process, learn something about our community and ourselves. Thus far, we have studied Jewish Identity in the Former Soviet Union and examined connections between Judaism and justice. This week, we will be exploring rituals in transition, focusing on the mezuzah as an example — and we will even get to design our own rituals.
I look forward to seeing you this weekend. And as always, please feel free to reach out with any questions at email@example.com.
November 15, 2019
In this week’s Torah Portion, Parashat Vayera, an often-overlooked character, Sarah’s slave, Hagar, finds herself stranded in the wilderness with no water and no hope. Then God opens her eyes to see a well of water. What does it mean that God opened her eyes?
What might it mean for us to open our eyes? To the need in our communities, to the power that we have, and to the goodness that surrounds us?
I look forward to exploring these questions with you on my upcoming visit this weekend as we pray together Friday night, learn together Saturday morning, and of course shmooze in between. On Saturday, we will have a special opportunity to dive into our text, explore tzedek or justice, in our lives, and create a special tzedek box to take home so we may continue the practice and thinking.
I look forward to seeing you this weekend. And as always, please feel free to reach out with any questions at firstname.lastname@example.org.
September 20, 2019
Shalom! My name is Shirah and I will be serving as B’nai Israel’s student rabbi this year. While studying full-time at the Hebrew Union College in Cincinnati in order to become a rabbi, I will travel to Grand Forks once a month (as well as for Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur). During my visits, I will lead erev shabbat (Friday night) services as well as Saturday morning Torah study and adult education classes. This year, we will have the opportunity to dive into contemporary issues, the weekly Torah portion, and living a Jewish life. I am also available to meet with congregants and teach younger students.
It was wonderful to meet so many kind and welcoming people on my first visit last weekend. I enjoyed learning about Grand Forks–its proximity to Canada and Minnesota, the importance of the weather, the need for caution in the face of bears and moose (who sometimes wander onto the football field), and the local love of “chippers.” I felt embraced by kindness and enjoyed discussing everything from the potato bowl to Toni Morrison — I look forward to building stronger relationships and meeting people I did not get a chance to meet on future visits. In the meantime, you can learn more about me by reading my bio here and feel free to peruse the upcoming services and events.
Finally, as we prepare for the High Holy Days during this Hebrew month of Elul, I would like to share an excerpt from Psalm 27, which is customarily recited during this month. This particular Psalm can be a source of strength and comfort for us as we navigate challenges in our personal lives, in the Jewish world–for example, as we work to support the Jewish community in Duluth and elsewhere–and in our world as a whole:
יְהוָ֤ה ׀ אוֹרִ֣י וְ֭יִשְׁעִי מִמִּ֣י אִירָ֑א יְהוָ֥ה מָֽעוֹז־חַ֝יַּ֗י מִמִּ֥י אֶפְחָֽד׃
Adonai is my light and my help; whom should I fear? Adonai is the stronghold of my life, whom should I dread?
To whom or what do you look to for help? What or who is a source of light and a stronghold in your life?
Please reach out if I can be of service to you. My email is email@example.com